on love
By my beloved Khalil Gibran
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When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams
as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you.
Even as he is for your growth, so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and
caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and
shake them in their clinging to the earth.
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Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire,
that you may become sacred bread
for God’s sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you
that you may know the secrets of your heart,
and in that knowledge
become a fragment of Life’s heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness
and pass out of love’s threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter,
and weep, but not all of your tears.
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your problem is your teacher
All too often we avoid anything which is ugly, painful, inconvenient, uncomfortable or upsetting to us.
One of the most important things we need to learn, however, is that our problems actually serve as beacons of light. They are magnifying glasses, emphasizing our most crippling fears, our most restrictive attitudes, judgments, and misconceptions which are holding up our progress—things that we really must face and overcome if we are to grow.
We must understand that our problems represent the lesson we need to learn. We are all in the process of becoming wiser, and better, and more real.
The difficulties we face are like a gateway through which we must pass in order to proceed. Our problems are, in fact, our teachers.
So get in, and get curious.
withholds
To have a chance for real love, you must be transparent. Let the other see you. Let the other know who you are. Let the other be intimidated, judgmental, or whatever. But don’t hide. Don’t attempt to control by withholding. Because that is not love.
When you hide, you don’t love yourself. Hiding is an expression of secretly hating, disliking or disapproving of yourself.
When you hide, you don’t love yourself. When you withhold, you don’t love others.
When you hide, you deny yourself your loving. When you withhold, you deny others your loving.
When you withhold, you limit the flow of loving in both directions.
All withholds are withholds of love.
why is important to know your archetypes
Identifying and interpreting the underlying patterns of energy that form your thoughts and beliefs is important. These underlying energies are your Archetypes and they can guide you to recognize your soul contract.
Here is another chance to participate in the Archetypes: Explore Your Soul Contracts interactive zoom workshop. This is the second edition of the class.
Click on the photo to see a short video about it.
An archetype is an individual expression of an ancient and universal patterns of energy. Each archetype contains both shadow and light, strengths and weaknesses, but their essence is neutral.
The impact of the archetype remains neutral until it is acted upon. How you choose to exercise that power is part of your contract. You can choose to act in shadow or light, from consciousness or unconsciousness.
If you are curious to find out what is the set of characteristics unique to you, jump in and join me in this workshop!
$45 for all three classes.
In this interactive zoom program you will:
Meet your 12 Archetypes
Discover their strengths and weaknesses
Explore patterns of behavior that no longer serve you, then find out how to shift away from them
Define your unique talents and gifts and how they can help you live in alignment with your purpose
Understand how your experiences relate to your soul contract
Learn to create a more harmonious balance within you as you take a deeper look into different aspects of your personality
Tuesdays from 7:00 - 9:00pm EST
September 8, 15 & 22, 2020
This is an online event.
See you in the class.
Gina
desire vs. love
Desire has little to do with love.
Desire can be possessive, intruding, and at times threatening.
Love is gentle. Love gives. Love cherishes. Love is generous and open. It builds no walls. Love is the opposite of fear.
A man who desires you wants to be happy with you.
A man who loves you wants you to be happy.
archetypes: explore your soul contract
We’ve come to this lifetime with a set of specific qualities, gifts and shortcomings that are in fact powerful energy patterns within us. We were “assigned” these qualities and energetic patterns in order to fulfill a specific evolutionary task
We’ve come to this lifetime with a set of specific qualities, gifts and shortcomings that are in fact powerful energy patterns within us. We were “assigned” these qualities and energetic patterns in order to fulfill a specific evolutionary task.
Living on purpose means to fulfill that task. The first step to living on purpose is to make conscious the forces within us that have been unconscious (these might be some of our archetypal patterns).
Let me give you an example. You probably know someone about whom you might say: “She is such a People-Pleaser.” And instantly we all know what this means! We know that this person neglects her needs in order to get an outside approval. We know that she has soft boundaries, if any. We know that it’s practically impossible for her to say NO, and if she manages to say NO sometimes, it’s not very convincing and it might be easy to persuade her to change her mind. We also know numerous qualities, characteristics and behaviors that come with this two-word description, even though they were not voiced.
This is an archetype. And it has a lot of power. It dictates the person’s actions, choices, and ultimately—her wellbeing.
What are the operating forces IN YOUR LIFE?
What are the “characters” that live inside you and help you to solidify your strength or weaken your will and influence your choices?
3-part interactive zoom workshop in which you’ll find your 12 archetypes and understand how they influence your life and connect to your life’s purpose.
When we become conscious of these internal forces, we can harvest our power—the power of built-in archetypes that show up as aspects of who we are in this life.
We are a conglomerate of archetypal patterns, and until we befriend them, we have a hard time finding our purpose, or the right relationship, or a calling that is aligned with who we truly are.
If you would like to find out what are the 12 energy forces that operate in your life, sign up for this three-part interactive zoom workshop.
You will walk away knowing yourself more deeply and seeing clearly why certain things happen in your life the way they do. Things that were puzzling you before will make more sense.
Wednesdays from 7:00 - 9:00pm EST
July 29, August 5 & August 12, 2020
This is an online event.
Course Outline
Week 1: Meet the four survival archetypes.
Week 2: Cast your Archetypal Wheel and find out your major 12 archetypes
Week 3: Interpret the messages of your archetypes and reveal your soul contracts. Uncover the evolutionary lessons that you are here to learn.
REGISTRATION IS CLOSED. YOU CAN GET RECORDINGS OF THIS CLASS HERE
the surprising intimacy of phone sessions
I’ve been offering video sessions for a while now. In addition to local clients I see people who live in other cities. For them video calls have been the most common choice—as if it is somehow a better option. Perhaps seeing each other on video creates the illusion of real connection.
When the pandemic hit I could no longer see people in person, so I moved all my coaching sessions online.
As the time of quarantine went on, some of my clients suggested we talk on the phone. They wanted to relieve their eyes from staring at a computer and wished to take a walk in nature while in session. Others were driven by the need for more privacy since their spouse was working from home.
Phone sessions became our new routine.
To our mutual surprise, speaking on the phone took us deeper and felt more intimate. It seemed that phone conversations allowed for more heart-to-heart than video calls.
I wondered what’s that about.
As these phone sessions progressed I began to pay more attention.
I noticed that there was something about hearing a person’s voice without the distractions of seeing, that felt more cozy and led to profound insights, closer connection, and greater impact. It’s as if the rest of our senses were sharpened and we stayed more present and more alert. It somehow allowed us to catch what mattered most.
We were not distracted by seeing the face of another and this made us feel as if we were talking to a deeper aspect of the Self. Greater truths began to surface. The sessions were increasingly powerful, deeply meaningful and brought unexpected insights.
It’s as if being invisible made it easier to drop the mask of social appearance and show up more fully.
Perhaps knowing that nobody sees us, relaxes something in us.
Clients didn’t have to look a certain way, paste a fake smile, or produce another conditioned facial expression aiming to make sure that they are liked. This seemed to create a sense of freedom that’s not fully available in video calls. This allowed for more congruent expression and more honest connection with their Self. Deeper truths were revealed with more ease and were then received with less judgment.
Each session ended with profound and unexpected breakthrough.
I guess, being invisible has its benefits. It took my clients deeper into the truth of who they are and helped them to access, reveal, and accept what they truly felt. This allowed them to find their truer answers, and a deeper healing occurred.
I wonder if we can bring more phone calls not just in counseling sessions, but also in our love relationships.
Perhaps this could fill up an intimate gap and revive the forgotten aspects of pillow talk—sensing the other without seeing them, and yet—connecting to their true essence. Perhaps this can open the doors to feeling more relaxed around each other and thus—more available to love.
Could this help us repair some of the damages created by online dating relying heavily on small talk via text messages and FaceTime?
create your own amalgam
©2010, Gina Brezini paintograph
Since the Middle Ages Venetian mirrors had certain enchanting qualities. Venetian glass was famous worldwide with its amazing quality. But these special properties were a result of the secret of the Venetian masters—they added gold in the amalgam of the mirror and the effect was the domination of warm tones.
To make the layer of YOUR world more enchanting, it is necessary to create your own amalgam. The world’s layers are formed by multiple responses – your relationship to yourself, your relationship with others, and the various manifestations of the surrounding reality.
True Power Comes From Presence
True power comes from being present. It comes from being authentic. It comes from feeling all your feelings, experiencing your emotions fully, and expressing authentically—without judging yourself.
This doesn’t mean that you shout at people when you feel angry. It doesn’t mean that you blame others for what happens to you. It doesn’t mean that you keep yourself in a position of a victim, just because you think this makes you right. It doesn’t mean you are entitled to complain and burden everyone around you with what you are unhappy about. It doesn’t mean you indulge in endless self-pity that keeps you powerless.
Let me make it clear:
anything that is not love is unauthentic. Period.
That includes your judgments (especially your judgments!)—of yourself and others. It also includes blaming others and feeling sorry for yourself.
Anything that puts you back into the Loving is what I call Authentic. Love is your Power.
Anything that keeps you in fear, keeps you stuck in negative emotions, or prompts you to act defensively, is unauthentic.
Fear, anger, shame, desire to control, blame, judgments (especially judgments!) are just some of the gooey stuff that have layered themselves over the essence of who you are. These are the shields that keep you imprisoned, under the pretext of keeping you safe. You might think that they protect you from getting hurt, but in reality, they hold you back from coming out, and stepping into your power.
What I want for each one of you is to scrub yourself clean and show up as you truly are. I want you to shine as brightly as possible. Now.
how we feel...
Love and relationships are a direct result of how we feel about other people.
Money, possessions and personal values are a direct result of how we feel about ourselves.
acceptance
The reason more of us are not spiritually aware people is that we often don't or won't accept what is happening.
Acceptance is a flow of consciousness that continually moves on to the next thing.
So accept whatever comes your way, and don't grumble against anything that happens to you. If it happens, it happens. Go on about your business. Keep flowing.
You cannot control circumstances from the outside, so instead of resisting pain or failure and defending against it, you can embrace and encompass your pain and your failures, fully accepting them so that they become part of you.
You then can let them go because they are part of your inner environment — they are within your domain — and the loving of your Soul can dissolve them.
~John Roger
(From: Timeless Wisdoms, Vol. One, p. 107-108)
what does it mean to live in a higher vibration?
In my current process of growth and evolving I am focused on shifting my emotional states and living from a higher vibration. So I’ll be posting a few blogs on what it means to live in a higher vibration, how to attain it, and most importantly — how to maintain it.
So, how do you know when you live in a higher vibration? Here are just a few signs:
You live with ease.
Your life is full of goals, dreams, authenticity.
You have the ability to attract everything you desire.
Everything is happening quickly.
You don’t take things personally.
You observe and allow.
You learn to relax and to let go of control.
You can shift negative to positive. Quickly.
You liberate yourself from limiting believes.
You replace the outdated beliefs with new, positive ones.
You feel good about yourself and the world.
why you need a relationship coach
A relationship coach provides experienced, educated views and guidance on relationships of all types—dating, family and business.
A relationship coach helps clients learn how to start great new relationships, save the ones headed for disaster, and make the good ones even more enjoyable.
You can benefit from working with a relationship coach and experience positive outcomes if:
You want to make improvements in your life and you realize that they begin with the structure and quality of your relationships. A coach will help you push beyond your comfort zone and explore new ways to relate successfully in all areas of your life.
You believe that your relationship is worth saving, even if it seems really challenging at times.
You know that harmonious relationships are the foundation for a happy life. And a happy life is worth the cost of a few coaching sessions.
You want to let go of your old baggage. A coach can help you release the past and prepare for a happier future.
You are searching for true love in your life. A coach can help you navigate through the dating waters with more ease and help you make more self-supportive choices.
You want to learn what to say and how to act on a date. A coach will teach you this, and in time will help you take the step from dating to committed relationship.
You want to become more assertive within the framework of your personal and business relationships. A coach can help you build your confidence, establish boundaries and take risks that pay off.
You are aware that successful business relationships are the foundation for a rewarding career. A relationship coach can help you strengthen this foundation.
You have been the victim of a toxic relationship. A coach will guide you towards emotional healing and making better choices, while supporting you in your desire to begin again.
You want to be real and relate in authentic way, so your self-confidence grows and your relationships with others are more fulfilling. A coach will show you how to communicate in a way that you feel heard, appreciated and valued.
You want to improve your financial situation. A coach can help you detect limiting beliefs that prevent you from living in abundance. A coach can teach you to improve your relationship with money.
You want to live inspired life and achieve more with less effort. A coach can teach you how to work smarter, not harder.
A good coach has the skills, the knowledge, and the training to help you.
Your coach can be your guide, your handbook and your manual for success.
magnified
As I work with my clients this week, I realize that the issues each one of us has been dealing with, are being magnified during this stay at home period. As we are disconnecting from many of our distractions, we are forced to face the truth about our lives!
Everything seems more visible now because there are less places to hide or escape: We can’t go out and have drinks with a friend when we get pissed off at our lover. We can’t go shopping as a way to find sanity. Or use driving the kids as an excuse for not showing up fully for our dream business.
We can’t attend a gathering at our favorite support group that softens the edge of loneliness. We can’t silence worries about money by working overtime. We can’t go dancing and let strangers hold us—to ease the pain of not having real intimacy in our lives.
We can’t go to a trendy party, paste a carefree smile while we drink to forget and lie that we are happy and satisfied with all our choices. We can’t go to the gym and workout the frustration that bubbles up inside. We can’t om it to oblivion either, in some oh-so-competitive yoga class. We can’t go on mindless dates with random people and pretend that we have a love life.
We are called to look inside and meet ourselves and our partners (if we have any).
We are facing some big and important questions. Most of them will point to some revisions—reevaluations about what’s truly important and what really matters to us. Our new decisions will determine our next steps. And our future.
Some clients are awakening to the truth of how draining the relationship with their partner has been. Others are forced to stick around instead of running away at the first sign of “too much” closeness. Some shout that they need space, while others are whining that they need company because they are bored and have nothing to do.
Truths around sexuality and compatibility are becoming painfully obvious as we are forced to stay home together.
Single or attached, we all face the deeper layers of loneliness and the existential fears that come with it.
And, as panic piles up, the masks crack under the pressure and reveal the traits of the untamed Lower Self… We all have it. I trust that it is our life’s task to tame these darker aspects of the self.
And I believe that this is the perfect time for it!
I see this crisis as a call for AWARENESS. A call to face the truth about our lives, our priorities, our self-care, our deepest needs, our truest desires, and our habitual means of coping, avoidance and denial.
What are you asked to change in these times of introspection? What are you seeing now that you’d rather ignore or hide from yourself? Are there any new choices that you are willing to make?
And where in your life will you press the reset button?
Maybe it’s time to end an unsatisfying relationship that’s been dragging itself for too long.
Maybe it’s time to give more loving attention to your partner.
Maybe it’s time to stop dating aimlessly and decide that the person you “clicked with” is enough.
Maybe it’s time for fresh communication methods.
Maybe you’ll take the first steps towards your dream job that seems aligned with your purpose.
Maybe you’ll dare to record those videos you’ve been postponing for a while.
Maybe it’s time to find new ways to bring more income and enjoy life more.
Maybe it’s time to spend more quality time with your children.
Maybe it’s time to find your new calling and your unique ways of expressing and bringing it into the world.
Maybe you’ll call more often the people who are important to you.
Maybe you’ll learn to rest and take a better care of yourself.
Maybe you’ll finally balance your life in ways you forgot were possible.
Maybe it’s time to bring your yoga practice to your friends online.
Maybe it’s something else that wants to emerge at this time.
What needs to change FOR YOU so you can live a more fulfilling life?
turn disaster into quality time
Perhaps the virus is asking all of us to do deeper personal work and determine what matters most in our lives. Then to find creative ways to continue in new circumstances.
I’m convinced that in times like this we find the heart of truth inside.
And as we stay home we can read books, and listen, and rest, and exercise, and make art, and play games, and learn new ways of being, and stay still…
To access our own truth we can meditate more and listen more deeply.
We can dance.
We can meet our shadows.
Perhaps writing can serve as therapy through poetry or journaling.
We can heal.
And we can begin to think differently.
And when the danger passes and we join together again, we can make new choices, dream new images, and create new ways to live and heal the earth fully, as we are healed…
what if the covid-19 crisis is a wake up call?
When this crisis first began, I thought: “Oh no! We are forced to be even more isolated now! And live in more fear!”
I see symbolic meaning and messages in all that happens to us. I believe that there is a valuable lesson in everything we experience—good or bad. But I couldn’t believe that the lesson, or the message of the coronavirus crisis is to disconnect even more than we currently are! I sat in confusion and disbelief, unable to make sense of all this.
Meanwhile travel was banned and countries were closing. Live events and fun gatherings were cancelled left and right—the bachata bootcamp I signed up for, the comedy show I looked forward to see, the retreats I was excited about. Friends and acquaintances decided to hide into their homes, under self-imposed house arrest.
Yes, this is a serious problem that needs attention. But I kept wondering: why is it happening? On the surface it seemed like an attack or a punishment to humanity.
But I believe that everything happens for a reason, and the reason is always good. I believe that the Universe is for us and not against us. And I knew that there is no way that more isolation is what the Universe wants for us.
I have the custom to ask questions. I also believe that some questions are better than others. So I began to ask:
What’s the lesson in our present challenge?
What is it that we need to see, learn, or change?
What are we asked to pay attention to, collectively?
I sensed that the message we need to hear won’t get revealed if we simply looked at the symptoms. We need to resolve the situation, but it’s not only the virus itself that we have to look at. Somehow I knew that this is not about diagrams, flattening curves, toilet paper, and giving in to horrifying news…
IT’S ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE. BUT WHAT?
I kept posing my questions. And then it dawned on me:
THIS CRISIS IS AN INVITATION TO PAUSE.
It’s an invitation to slow down and pay attention to what is here and now. And then to hit the reset button. It’s an invitation to stop doing so much and remember to be—to be with our kids and our families, to spend less hours away from home. To GO INSIDE. And to spend more time there. To learn to be with ourselves.
This urges us to lift our heads off the phones and ipads, and spend real time with ourselves and those we chose to live with!
To stop the busy bee syndrome and spend time with our children. To get to know them. To get to know ourselves. To be more mindful of our personal environment. To actually stay in the homes we have made for ourselves and our families.
I also see this as an invitation for self-awareness and self-care—to keep our bodies clean and to strengthen our immune system. To become mindful of the junk we feed our bodies, and the junk we feed our minds!
To become more aware of what we touch and how we handle things.
To stop the mindless meetings with strangers and give our physical affection to the people who really matter to us.
I believe this is an invitation to awaken and start seeing the beauty around us. To look Life in the eyes and appreciate all that we’ve been taking for granted. To remember to value Life—ours and the lives of those around us.
This is an invitation to pay attention to each moment, to be more present and more mindful of all that we do.
And perhaps this is a reminder to determine what our priorities are. To decide what we really value. And when we rush to the store to stock on toilet paper, to get clear: what do we prepare ourselves for?
I also see this as a great opportunity to explore our personal relationship with fear. To become aware of how other people’s opinions and actions influence us. To see to what extend we are prone to buy into collective thought patterns blown out of proportions. And to see how this dictates or influences our actions.
To become mindful of what we focus on, and to observe how we give our power to fear and worry. To notice how we scare ourselves, and others, with our own fearful thoughts and worries, or by repeating someone else’s frightening words and views. To start noticing what are the sources of our worry and fears, then “to stand guard at the door of our minds”.
To begin questioning the influence of outside opinions—to see how fast we are willing to swallow the fast food of fear delivered by the media. To look into the facts, take preventive measures, think of how we can help, and how we can keep our spirits high.
And of course, this situation is here to help us decide what is important to us: to stock on toilet paper and spread fear, or to ask deeper questions that can lead us all to the creation of a more loving world.
remembering
Sometimes you are alone in your room. Sometimes you are alone in your head—wondering, questioning, and trying to figure things out.
Then you decide to be around other people and share a group experience—a workshop, a weekend, a retreat. And while you are there, you start realizing that there are other people who (like you) are craving to have more meaning, to feel more alive, more present, and more true to themselves.
And then you might begin to see that the very things you value, might not be YOUR values at all, but influences and convictions dictated by societal norms, cultural traditions, or media insistence.
And when you start listening to yourself, to your own guidance, to your own instincts—you step on the courageous path of truth.
We call this transformation. Remembering who you are.
If you’d like to reconnect with your truth, the Return to Self weekend expansion will rock you.
book your exploration call now and see if this is for you!
return to self
With the increased pace of life and the continuous advance of technology, it’s never been more important to PAUSE and find the time to reconnect with who you truly are.
I am Gina Brezini—a teacher, a healer, a life coach, and the founder of Gina Brezini Coaching and Love Solutions Now.
I invite you to a profound immersive experience that will challenge you, charge you, nurture you, and put you back in touch with who you really are.
There is something truly soothing to the nervous system when we begin to honor our authentic being and speak what’s true for us. What's even more calming is to feel heard and seen, without judgments. And to connect with other people who enjoy experiences that go beyond small talk and bring insights or transformation.
This is some of what's on offer during the weekend expansion on March 7 - 8, in Washington DC.
For two full days we will practice deepening our connection to Self, discovering what each of us really needs, and learning what are the most direct ways to fulfill these needs.
If you prefer to go even deeper and have some real self-care and fun, check out the Becoming Whole week-long retreat in Canary islands, Spain — May 23-30, 2020
Of course, you can attend both.
Both events are opportunities to get to know, accept and love yourself more, while learning and practicing new relational skills.
Then you can apply these new skills into your everyday life and connect more truthfully with the important people in your life—whether a spouse, a lover, friends, colleagues, parents or children.
No experience is necessary.
These are small and intimate groups, so schedule your exploration call now to determine what is the next right step for you, and to reserve your spot before the programs fill up
